Question: I think my wife is cheating. What should I do?
I have been married to my wife for a little over a year. I thought everything was fine. But now I find out that she may be cheating.
My wife spends a lot of time in chat rooms with other men talking about sex and I know that she has had telephone conversation with some of the men. At first this didn’t bother me but now I am getting worried.
I found out that she met in person with one of the men who lives in the same town as us. She said that they just talked and didn’t have sex
I have bee totally faithful to her and I want to believe her, but why would she meet in person with someone if it wasn’t to have sex? I don’t know what to do.
Answer:
It sounds like your wife may have not been ready to be married or that maybe she wants a different type of relationship then you do. You both need to be on the same track for this to work.
Some married people do have open relationships so they can be with other people and some attend swinging parties together. But in almost all of those cases it is an agreement between the married couple and so would not be considered cheating by them.
It doesn’t sound like you would agree to an accommodation like either of those. In that case, your marriage might have problems.
I would suggest that you have a very serious discussion with your wife about how your relationship will be going forward what will be allowed and what won’t. If you both can’t agree on this, you should consider ending the marriage and both of you moving on to more compatible partners.
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She’s definitely cheating.
Tell her to pack and go…
cheating is cheating no matter what type…if she is neglecting you and giving her time to another guy…its cheating!!! show her the email and tell her it stops now or you will kick her @ss out…
Who is she signing on as and what website. Someone on here might know her.
Jk
Put a key logger on, wait, and then confront her.
if she is hiding it from you it’s cheating.
You’ve been letting this go on for 5 MONTHS????
My man would of chucked the computer out the window 5 MONTHS AGO!!!
It depends on your perception of cheating. I personally think it is. If you are willing to make it work, them confront her and try to fix it. If not you have every right to throw her on her ass, just keep your proof. Good luck.
Kick Her To The Curb.
Tell her your proof, and ask her plain and simple–just how would you react if i did that to you. You go Man!! Best of luck.
Confront her and ask her if she’s doing this. Don’t tell her you know. If she lies, end the marriage. If she tells the truth, get some counseling and try to work things out.
I don’t consider cyber and phone sex cheating. Why don’t you join her?
First of all yes she is cheating…and second of all soon she will be meeting these men in person. Leave…. Do you want to live like this? Do you deserve to be treated like this? It is emtional abuse! Get rid of her!!
Time to get a lawyer
You need to tell her that you know, and if you feel you can try to work things out. I think she feels like she is not getting something from you that she is looking for, maybe time to try to reconnect
ok first of all you need to bust her out on it.ask her why shes doing it and if she wants other men tell her how you feel bout it. if you have caught her on the computer what havent you caught. its like that old saying if you see 1 bug in your house it means you have alot.weird way of putting it but i hope you get the point.
First, you need to talk to her about it. But you also have to put your foot down. This is emotional cheating, at the very least, but still cheating. Especially since she’s not having sex with you. I would wonder if there isn’t more going on than phone and cyber. Put your foot down and let her know this isn’t acceptable and if she doesn’t stop you want a separation. But, another good thing at this point would be counseling. Try to find out what got you two to this point in the first place and try to deal with it from that angle too.
i consider any sexual contact with someone other than your spouse is cheating. i consider my husband watching porn and going to strip clubs as cheating. sorry to actually say it out loud because people think i am crazy but i do. i know it is different for everybody so tell her what you found and that it is unacceptable in your standards. if she doesn’t stop you will know what to do.
She’s cheating on you!!! Even if she hasn’t met anyone of these men, she is still cheating on you. You should file for a divorce, not unless you’re willing to work through this. Both are hard, but I would think that staying would be harder, having to constantly worry about what she’s doing, with who. I can forgive but not forget. I’d hold on to your solid proof and hand it over to an attorney.Best of luck to you, and sorry you’ve been screwed over.
simply confront her and see what she has to say maybe you are not satisfying her you never no
But her in the recycle bin> She will some day or have Cheated in person> Your call to much drama> S&H
Hunny, depends on what you are willing to live with, sounds like alot due to the fact you haven’t confronted her yet with all the things you have found. This is cheating, she has sexual relations with others and not her husband, this is not good.
She has put you on the back burner and forgot about you. You deserve better and are worth more than see is giving you. Good Luck
Its your wife of four years man, talk to her,ask her what’s happening?
Is she bored? or Is she not getting what she wants from you?
I feel she still loves you else she would have gone with any of them. Talk to her, sort out things, make your love life great, go for a vacation with her. Tell her what she did hurts you and ask her to do it to you than to anyone else.
Also ask her if she wants to step out from the relationship?